This Husband Thinks Speech Therapy Is 'Just Playing Games' — Now He Wants His Wife to Do It for Free

We all know that moment when managing a household budget turns into a battleground over what is truly essential. For one stay-at-home mom, this familiar struggle escalated when her husband decided to target their five-year-old son’s speech therapy.

He argued that since the sessions looked like just playing games, his wife could easily take over the job and save them money. But she stood her ground, knowing her limits and the value of a professional’s expertise. Want the juicy details? Dive into the original story below!

This Husband Thinks Speech Therapy Is 'Just Playing Games' — Now He Wants His Wife to Do It for Free

AITAH for refusing to teach my son and costing us $700 a month?

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AITAH (25f) for refusing to take my 5-year-old out of speech therapy and do it myself since I’m a SAHM? We pay $88 for 30 minutes of therapy with a...

They will also do things like I Spy pages filled with the appropriate sounds. My husband (25m) is extremely bothered that we pay this much for the SLP to just...

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He is also upset that I’m refusing to since I’m a SAHM and have the time. I’m refusing to do so because I know my child. We do homeschool things...

He is strong-willed and sees saying no as an option with us. These are things he doesn’t have a problem with when working with the SLP. I also often watch...

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I know I have no training in this and strongly believe being able to speak clearly is a very important thing for his life. Edit: He is in kindergarten and...

Watching a child struggle to communicate is tough, and navigating the financial strain of specialized care only adds to the pressure. Let’s look at the bigger picture: play-based therapy is a scientifically validated approach, not just idle amusement. According to the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association, speech-language pathologists use structured play to facilitate language acquisition and monitor subtle physical and cognitive cues that untrained observers miss.

By expecting his wife to simply replicate the SLP’s techniques, he is disregarding the specialized education required to design and adapt these interventions. For parents facing similar disagreements, a constructive step is for the skeptical partner to attend a session and observe the goal-directed nature of the therapy firsthand. Additionally, requesting a progress roadmap from the therapist can help quantify the results of these methods.

Community Opinions

Reddit came in hot — nearly unanimous in supporting the mother and criticizing the husband’s lack of understanding.

u/NewtInMpls A stay at home mom isn't the same as a qualified speech therapist, and if you are seriously going, you probably have "homework" or practices that your child is...

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u/Flimsy-Surprise8234 You’re not “costing” 700 a month. You’re right. He’s wrong, and if you did what he said, it would harm your child. Nta. 

u/LTP_USA NTA. A good SLP is worth their weight in gold! As a SAHM, you reinforce the lessons learned in therapy. Your son will do better by having the therapy...

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u/silverokapi You aren't qualified to do the therapy he needs and that is ok. To your husband, its just games. But the pathologist is also monitoring things like tongue movement...

u/nursepenguin36 He does realize speech pathology is a degree that takes many years to earn right? You don’t just decide to start doing it. He is an idiot.

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u/VexedVixen69 NTA. Good Lord, your husband doesn't value a trained and licensed therapist helping your child SPEAK?!?? WTF? You are not trained. You are only doing what YOU have been...

u/floralstamps Your husband doesnt value you, understand what your child needs, or understand his paycheck is barely a contribution.

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u/ThePromptCollective NTA. This isn’t about whether you could do similar activities at home, it’s about whether you can get the same results. You're paying for expertise. It might look like...

u/Babygrrl1 Yeah how exactly are you supposed to take the place of a rehab professional just because you have time?? Please! He’s clueless!

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u/Mendokusai137 They're not just playing games. My wife's a SLP at an elementary school. You need a masters to become one and then credentials to work with kids. The games...

u/floralstamps He aint strong willed girl hes an AH Nta Oof I cant read but I landed a strike in the other lane

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u/PinApprehensive8573 Are you a certified Speech and Language Pathologist? Didn’t think so. The professional is analyzing your son’s progress as she works with him and can adjust her therapy to...

u/AgentWD409 NTA. You're right and your husband is wrong. My wife is an SLP. She has specialized training, a master's degree, and both state and national certification. So no, you...

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u/rosatter Hi, SLPA here who got into the field after seeing what therapists do when my kid was in EI. SLPs send their own kids to other SLPs because the...

u/Darkmika90 I have special needs children and four of them had speech therapy. It may look just like playing but its not. Your husband doesn't seem to understand how needed...

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A few commenters, claiming professional backgrounds, emphasized that even experts don’t treat their own children due to the complex parent-child dynamic.

This situation raises important questions about how we value professional expertise versus parental availability. Speech therapy is a specialized field, and recognizing its necessity is crucial for a child’s development. Do you think the husband was just trying to be practical with the budget, or did he completely dismiss the value of the therapist’s expertise? And how would you handle a disagreement over medical expenses for your child? Share your hot take below!

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